Comments on: Friendship in these days of degenerating decency…

By: Anup

Anup — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 09:52:46 +0000

“…And despite everything, most of us cling on to our friends, like babies snuggling up to their mothers. We forgive and forget. We trust, even when we’re being cheated upon.”

Man great post dude… you spoke out many of the things which indeed i too have in my mind. The one quoted above being one of my personal experiences..

By: Syam Nath S

Syam Nath S — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 18:36:06 +0000

chumma…. wanted my name on this blog for reasons u know.. cheers

By: Sajad

Sajad — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 18:28:21 +0000

We got lots in common, bro. The pulling up things for friends, the pride not to ask people for help, and the getting disappointed when you expect stuff from your friends.

Aah, well, but I’m now one of the others. The guys who use people, and get on with it. Saves me from depression. I suggest you do the same. Cruel world. No space for nice guys like you, and me.

By: lekshmi

lekshmi — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 17:24:37 +0000

Have gone through the same friendship dilemma of being dumped,cheated on,friendless and lonely..had even lost faith on the very idea of friendship…but along comes someone who is just the ideal match ,and lo!life’s all hunky dory again.Life will prove to you that friendship is real and priceless,and though ‘ideal’ mates are rare ,they do exist….

By: DD Flynn

DD Flynn — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 14:40:25 +0000

Your post came to me through a google alert. I lost my daughter (20 yrs old) at the hands of her “friends”, 4 yrs, 5 mos ago. Her name was Christi Michelle Nowak. http://www.friendsdontletfriendsdie.com is a site worth sharing. There are very true and very tragic stories under “Our Children”. Kids, at the hands of their friends were shot and burned, buried alive while seizing, beaten and robbed by “friends” while seizing, painted and photographed while ODing. The site makes you re-think what a true friend is, in their most dire time of need.

By: ariyathe

ariyathe — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 11:53:14 +0000

I saw the title and knew it was going to be a great post!! =]

But blahhh I’m at a point right now where I’m past the forgive-and-forget stage and totally lost my faith in “ideal” friends of sorts. Because as you said, I’ve been there for others and no one’s been there for me.

Anyway I think it’s a bad idea to go out with a good friend because most likely, the relationship will not work out (practically speaking, let’s ignore the fairytale romance for a sec) and the person will lose both the relationship and a good friendship. Two birds with one stone- but those are the nice kind of birds.
So I’d add to that algorithm. In a relationship–>break up–>no friend and no relationship
…in all optimism=]

By: Akhil Sasidharan

Akhil Sasidharan — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 09:42:48 +0000

And, you had to write this!
“It’s high time you realize, that most of these people, for whom you’d rather die for, are actually MAKING USE OF YOU!”
My pat-on-the-back for each intelligent person who realize this soon enough and my sympathies for those who arrive at it late.

Pinne ellarem angu adachu aakshepikkan pattilla. There’re a LOT of selfless people in the world, and in college. Go for them! Let the others be, when you release that they can’t taken seriously into your friends fold.

Take out all the God-related text, I can connect as well.

As for the algorithm, I’d rewrite it as:
Meet girl/guy –> Talk –> Talk more –> Talk EVEN more –> Become ‘friends’ –> Good friends –> Best friends –> “Wiping tears off” BEST friends –> Bestest Friends –> Get out of their way –> Break their heart, after you’ve made sure it’s there in the right place.